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I taught a babysitting course to grade six students this spring. There were three very important rules we went over at the beginning of each class which had to do with basic child safety. The fourth most important thing I taught the soon-to-be-babysitters is how to interact with the kids. I taught them how to use games to encourage kids to do what they need to do.

I use this technique myself with great success, especially with my younger children. Turn rules that need to be followed and tasks that need to get done into a game and everyone is happier!

What Kind of Lifestyle Am I Modeling To My Children?

When my children are “grown up” as adults, I hope they are wise beyond their years, successful in every endeavor, and a leader in their community. I hope they are kind to others, joyful always, overflowing with compassion, and generous to all. I hope they find the love of their life and the passions of their heart, and never stop pursuing them. I hope they stand up for the weak, encourage the strong, and make ethical decisions. I hope my children are glowing with health physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Tips for Communicating With Your Nanny

Whether you employ a live-in au pair, in-home nanny, babysitter, or daycare provider, you should be talking with your child’s caregiver on a regular basis. It may feel awkward having an employer-employee relationship in your home surrounding your precious children. But, communication will prevent so many future nuances and resolve any previous ones. Take the phrase, “It’s only awkward if you make it awkward,” and begin talking with your nanny today. From my experience as a nanny, here are the best tips for discussions that you should be having on a regular (weekly) basis! (*Note: I will use the term “nanny” and “she” for simplicity, but it can be interchanged with any childcare provider, babysitter, au pair, etc.! To best help you apply these principles, I suggest you insert your childcare provider’s name directly into the questions below!)

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Along with keeping your explanations short and sweet, it is also important to choose small words for small people i.e talk to their vocabulary.

Which of the following is easier to understand?

• Ornithological species of identical plumage tend to congregate in closer proximity
• Birds of a feather flock together

Should I Apologize To My Kids?

Forgiveness is more than sayin’ sorry.
One of my husband’s favorite movies is Just Friends. The main character’s crazy girlfriend is famous pop star with a terrible voice. Although her music wouldn’t be a hit today, there is some truth to her catchy lyrics: “Forgiveness is more than sayin’ sorry.”

Asking for forgiveness and apologizing is an art form. By definition, an apology acknowledges that the person was involved in a previous act that violated a social norm and was considered offensive. Usually words of repentance are included in the apology, like “I’m sorry,” “I regret,” “excuse me,” “pardon me,” or “forgive me.”

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Just like the title, I promise to keep this one short and sweet.

How often have you given a long-winded explanation to your child only to find out they only heard the first five words you said?

I use this rule at home, your Childs attention span is seconds for each year of their life. A 2 years old therefore has an attention span of 2s, 3 year old 3s and so on.

Once you realize that you have such a limited window of attention it is no surprise when your children react the way they do to your requests right?

The Science Behind Spanking

Spanking is commonly known as an “an open-handed hit on the bottom or extremities.” Most of the time spanking is used to reduce undesirable behaviors by associating that behavior with the physical consequence of discomfort or pain (but not physical injury). According to a study by UNICEF in 2014 nearly 80% of parents around the world spank their children. But what does research have to say about spanking?

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Minding Your Negatives

We’re going to be talking about pink elephants, colourful zebras, and wet towels. You’ll want to get your imagination ready as we discover the power of negative words.

Elephants and Zebras

If I told you to not think about a pink elephant, I bet you that you would have a hard time not thinking about a pink elephant. A pink elephant would immediately pop into your mind. However, if I told you to go ahead and think about an orange and purple striped zebra, your mind would immediately provide you with an image of a very colourful zebra.

Do You Have Mumnesia?

80% of women say that they experience symptoms of “mumnesia,” often characterized by forgetfulness, attention deficit, and an impairment in spatial memory (remembering where things are located). Maybe you’ve heard of it called “preg head” or “pregnancy” or “baby brain.” Take this short quiz and guess whether these examples are facts or myths. (Or, recall if you experienced these symptoms during your pregnancy!)

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Check Your Favourite Words

What are you favorite parenting words? Do they include “No,” “Stop,” and “Don’t” and other similarly negative words?

There is nothing intrinsically right or wrong with words. In fact all words have their place. But when you overuse them the words lose power and meaning.