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Parenting Tool FOURTEEN –

One problem many well-meaning parents fall into is having and using only one rigid parenting method. While that method may have worked for your child once upon a time, your ways of managing and disciplining them will eventually fail, making you and your child frustrated.

Your tried and true parenting methods are no longer effective. But with a few carefully thought out tweaks, you can upgrade your favourite parenting tool without a system overhaul

Parenting Tool THIRTEEN-

I looked at my son, anger forming inside of me. Like fingernails on a chalkboard, I heard him whine again, “I don’t wanna get the garbage. It’s too haaaaard.”

Wow, I thought. Life’s going to be hard for him if he thinks collecting the garbage from eight garbage cans in the house was tough. I’d tried ignoring him before but I just couldn’t stand it! It’s like the whining got worse and I ended up giving in and either yelling at him or, more often, just collecting the garbage myself.

Parenting Tool TWELVE-

These days, kids get rewarded for everything. Everyone gets a medal at soccer tournaments and elementary schools no longer fail kids. There are no clearly defined winners and losers anymore, and for the most part, that is a good thing. We don’t need a handful of kids idolized while the remaining 98% stand by feeling like they’re not good enough. And we don’t want kids getting left behind in school while their peers move forward into the next grade.

I get it. For the most part.

Parenting Tool ELEVEN-

I remember the time I asked my 13 year old what a suitable consequence would be after he had abused his computer privileges.

“Take it away for two weeks?”

I just about laughed. “Really, you think that would be fair?”

“No, I just thought that that’s what you’d probably say, or worse!”

He really thinks I’m a mean Mom.

Parenting Tool TEN-

I taught a babysitting course to grade six students this spring. There were three very important rules we went over at the beginning of each class which had to do with basic child safety. The fourth most important thing I taught the soon-to-be-babysitters is how to interact with the kids. I taught them how to use games to encourage kids to do what they need to do.

I use this technique myself with great success, especially with my younger children. Turn rules that need to be followed and tasks that need to get done into a game and everyone is happier!

Parenting Tool EIGHT-

Along with keeping your explanations short and sweet, it is also important to choose small words for small people i.e talk to their vocabulary.

Which of the following is easier to understand?

• Ornithological species of identical plumage tend to congregate in closer proximity
• Birds of a feather flock together

Parenting Tool SEVEN-

Just like the title, I promise to keep this one short and sweet.

How often have you given a long-winded explanation to your child only to find out they only heard the first five words you said?

I use this rule at home, your Childs attention span is seconds for each year of their life. A 2 years old therefore has an attention span of 2s, 3 year old 3s and so on.

Once you realize that you have such a limited window of attention it is no surprise when your children react the way they do to your requests right?

Parenting Tool SIX-

Minding Your Negatives

We’re going to be talking about pink elephants, colourful zebras, and wet towels. You’ll want to get your imagination ready as we discover the power of negative words.

Elephants and Zebras

If I told you to not think about a pink elephant, I bet you that you would have a hard time not thinking about a pink elephant. A pink elephant would immediately pop into your mind. However, if I told you to go ahead and think about an orange and purple striped zebra, your mind would immediately provide you with an image of a very colourful zebra.

Parenting Tool FIVE-

Check Your Favourite Words

What are you favorite parenting words? Do they include “No,” “Stop,” and “Don’t” and other similarly negative words?

There is nothing intrinsically right or wrong with words. In fact all words have their place. But when you overuse them the words lose power and meaning.

Parenting Tool FOUR –

Have you ever gone to bed at the end of the day and thought, “Where did that day go?”

The older I get, the faster time seems to fly by. Our busy lifestyles and energetic children makes it seem that life is rushing past us at 500 miles per hour. It takes conscious effort to slow down and live in the moment.

Slowing down has a fancy new name – mindfulness. When you slow down enough to examine each fleeting thought that passes through you, what are they? Pick one thought and examine it.