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Parenting Tool THREE

I’m always looking for new ways to improve my parenting skills. My goal is to be more thoughtful, kinder, and forgiving. I want to be more in tune with my children and myself as I raise them. I have found that the more reflective I can be, the better I end up parenting. And that brings us to tool number three.

Write down your observations. Or, to make it sound fancier, Journal Your Way Through Parenting. I love writing and journaling because putting pen to paper helps me work things out in a way that nothing else can.

Parenting Tool TWO

One of my most cherished memories of my second born is when the Teacher’s Assistant (TA) at nursery school told me about a conversation she had had with my son who was four years old at the time. The school was about to perform their holiday concert piece and as the kids were lining up to get ready to go on stage, my son was pulled out of line and placed between two boys who weren’t his friends.

My son was not happy. He told the T.A. that he wanted to be with his friends. The T.A. nodded and took him off to the side, out of earshot of the other children. She explained to him that the boys he was now stuck between needed his positive influence in order to keep their troublesome behaviours in check. My four year old son thought about this for a few seconds and then said, “I get that. Thank you for telling me why you did this.”

Parenting Tool ONE

“You’re on your computer again,” I said to my teenager. He sighed and said, “Yes Mom, I’m getting off now.” Wow, that was easy, I thought to myself. I had expected him to put up an argument. What secret Jedi parenting mind trick did I just I stumbled upon?

The parenting tools you will discover with me can be described in one word – Practical. In fact, as you read them you’ll realize that many may seem basic or common sense.
Don’t be fooled, common sense is far too often uncommon.

Some of these tools you may already use – maybe only partially, and some perhaps inconsistently. Read through each tool and think about how you may have used it in the past. If they haven’t worked, find out what you were missing so you can make it better and more effective next time.

Your parenting style must change as your child grows. You have the ability to adjust each tool according to your child’s stage in life. Observe what works and what doesn’t. Keep trying different approaches from the tools in your toolbox until you find the ones that work well and more importantly works consistently for you and your child.

Parenting Toolbox Introduction

Parenting is right up there with brain surgery when it comes to hard jobs. So why is it that brain surgeon’s need years of intense study before they even get to touch a brain and the rest of us folks require only the skill of procreation to reach the status of parent and be thrust into the grind of parenting without a proper internship? That doesn’t seem right nor fair does it?

In my years as a parent, I’ve read many parenting books, blogs, and magazines. I’ve listened to podcasts on parenting and watched parenting experts on TV talk shows. Even though I have 56 cumulative years of parenting as a mother of five, I dare not claim to be a parenting expert. Just when I think I’ve got this parenting thing figured out, one of my kids – and sometimes more than one – will spin everything out of control. I’m left standing there like a deer in the headlights (think Bambi) wondering what to do next.

Why

‘Daddy can you play with me?’

‘Not now caca. Daddy is working.’

‘Why?’ (Uh-oh)

‘Because Daddy has some emails to read so that I can reply to them.’

Just 1 new habit can change parenting hell into parenting bliss

Just 1 new habit can change parenting hell into parenting bliss
I know what you are thinking, ‘1 new habit? Give me a break’.
I don’t blame you, in a world with ‘get your baby to sleep within 10 minutes or your money back guaranteed’ it is easy to suffer from advertisement fatigue.

Results versus progress orientated parenting

“A little progress every day adds up to big results”
It doesn’t matter whether you are the CEO of a multi-national company, the manager of a successful sports team or just a parent trying their best with a child, the above quote applies to you.
Of course, it’s easy to become obsessed with instant results when it comes to your little bundle of joy, but that’s not how life or parenting works. As every father and mother knows, sometimes parenting isn’t easy and the results don’t turn out quite as you had hoped.

There is no signal

‘We have just landed at Los Angeles International Airport, if your phone is within your reach, you may now turn it on.

A flurry of activity ensues.

Phones out of pockets, flight mode off and mobile data on.

The search for network begins. Circles that go round and round, bars with a little cross on top, time itself almost feels like its gone into standstill while we await with baited breath.

The H.A.L.T Parent

“Tony, if you don’t eat your dinner, there will be no TV for you later.” You say exasperated. It is a constant nightly battle just to feed the little one.
“Gina, put on your coat and shoes now, we are going.” 10 minutes later. “GINA! PUT ON YOUR SHOE NOW!” And still the toddler is nowhere to be seen.