Parenting Tool EIGHT-

Along with keeping your explanations short and sweet, it is also important to choose small words for small people i.e talk to their vocabulary.

Which of the following is easier to understand?

• Ornithological species of identical plumage tend to congregate in closer proximity
• Birds of a feather flock together

Should I Apologize To My Kids?

Forgiveness is more than sayin’ sorry.
One of my husband’s favorite movies is Just Friends. The main character’s crazy girlfriend is famous pop star with a terrible voice. Although her music wouldn’t be a hit today, there is some truth to her catchy lyrics: “Forgiveness is more than sayin’ sorry.”

Asking for forgiveness and apologizing is an art form. By definition, an apology acknowledges that the person was involved in a previous act that violated a social norm and was considered offensive. Usually words of repentance are included in the apology, like “I’m sorry,” “I regret,” “excuse me,” “pardon me,” or “forgive me.”

Parenting Tool SEVEN-

Just like the title, I promise to keep this one short and sweet.

How often have you given a long-winded explanation to your child only to find out they only heard the first five words you said?

I use this rule at home, your Childs attention span is seconds for each year of their life. A 2 years old therefore has an attention span of 2s, 3 year old 3s and so on.

Once you realize that you have such a limited window of attention it is no surprise when your children react the way they do to your requests right?

The Science Behind Spanking

Spanking is commonly known as an “an open-handed hit on the bottom or extremities.” Most of the time spanking is used to reduce undesirable behaviors by associating that behavior with the physical consequence of discomfort or pain (but not physical injury). According to a study by UNICEF in 2014 nearly 80% of parents around the world spank their children. But what does research have to say about spanking?

Parenting Tool SIX-

Minding Your Negatives

We’re going to be talking about pink elephants, colourful zebras, and wet towels. You’ll want to get your imagination ready as we discover the power of negative words.

Elephants and Zebras

If I told you to not think about a pink elephant, I bet you that you would have a hard time not thinking about a pink elephant. A pink elephant would immediately pop into your mind. However, if I told you to go ahead and think about an orange and purple striped zebra, your mind would immediately provide you with an image of a very colourful zebra.

Do You Have Mumnesia?

80% of women say that they experience symptoms of “mumnesia,” often characterized by forgetfulness, attention deficit, and an impairment in spatial memory (remembering where things are located). Maybe you’ve heard of it called “preg head” or “pregnancy” or “baby brain.” Take this short quiz and guess whether these examples are facts or myths. (Or, recall if you experienced these symptoms during your pregnancy!)

Parenting Tool FIVE-

Check Your Favourite Words

What are you favorite parenting words? Do they include “No,” “Stop,” and “Don’t” and other similarly negative words?

There is nothing intrinsically right or wrong with words. In fact all words have their place. But when you overuse them the words lose power and meaning.

My Child Has An Imaginary Friend…Should I Be Worried?

“Will your husband be here for dinner tonight? I’d like to meet him.”
“No, he’s working in Nashville. But you met him at our wedding!”
“Oh, I don’t remember that.”
“Yeah, you were there, but my mom was sick and couldn’t come. We had yummy green cake and a dance party, too.”

That is the conversation I had with one of my nieces last Thanksgiving. She had an imaginary husband for a few months and I enjoyed hearing her tales about him. I learned that he fixes motorcycles, works a lot, misses out on every family dinner, and is quite funny. It’s cute and honest while she’s three and designs crafty stories about him. But beyond the adorableness, should I be worried that she is creating imaginary friends?

Parenting Tool FOUR –

Have you ever gone to bed at the end of the day and thought, “Where did that day go?”

The older I get, the faster time seems to fly by. Our busy lifestyles and energetic children makes it seem that life is rushing past us at 500 miles per hour. It takes conscious effort to slow down and live in the moment.

Slowing down has a fancy new name – mindfulness. When you slow down enough to examine each fleeting thought that passes through you, what are they? Pick one thought and examine it.

Intentional Date Nights With Your Kids!

Have you ever considered dating your kids? Just like you go on a date with your spouse to spend one-on-one time together, you can (and I propose, you should) do the same with your children! A study from the Journal of Marriage and Family showed that kids who spend more time with their parents are less likely to abuse alcohol or drugs; are less likely to engage in risky, delinquent, or illegal behaviors; and achieve better math scores.

I am so inspired at how my sister-in-law, Shannon, makes this a priority. As a Mama to three young girls, she has come up with a crafty and creative way to intentionally “date” each of her daughters every month.